[CW] So sad for my daughter:( She's broken

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It would be so wonderful if you all could send out some much needed positive vibes to my daughter Nicole. She had a such a bad meltdown on Sat night I had to take her the ER bcuz she was afraid of herself. She was saying she didn’t want to live anymore. So many things just came to a head for her. it’s her senior year in HS and she’s worried about college apps and college essays as well as her classes at school. Not to mention she has a job and does other school activities. And lastly, her older sister is leaving for college in 2 weeks and her boyfriend of 2 years went to college 4 weeks ago. there have been lots of demands put on her (not by me or any of our family) from people and she just broke. So, since she had thoughts of suicide and a possible plan (but did not carry anything out) the ER put her on suicide watch (with me there the whole time even) and then she was transfered by ambulance to a pediatric behavioral health clinic an hour away from our house. She gets to call us and I’ve visited her. She’s very low risk as it was just a mental breakdown of sorts but they’re making her stay 72hours. I’m hoping she comes home with me tomorrow. She’s being brave in the fact that she came to me in the first place. All I want for her now is to heal and just be a teenager. I’m so sad for her and I feel as a mom I’ve failed her.

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@marcie I am so sorry to hear that your daughter is struggling, she is lucky to have such a caring mother like you. I hope she feels better soon and know that she has a loving and supportive family at home to help her through this. Also look after yourself too as i know as a carer myself, that the one caring for another also has a lot on their plate and need support :heartpulse:

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Greetings @marcie,

Sending warm thoughts and love to you and your daughter. I’ve had to escort someone to the suicide watch ward in the ER and I know it’s a very stressful time for everyone involved. I’m glad to hear your daughter seems to be doing better and that she is in very good care now!

You have most definitely not failed your daughter, marcie- I think you are doing everything you can for her :heart: I’d suggest that the best thing you can do now is what you are already doing- letting your daughter know that you love her very much and are there to help with whatever you can. Keeping the door of communication wide open and encouraging her to talk and express herself are so important in such times.

If you’d like to draw on your magick in such times, perhaps a Blessing Spell for your daughter may help? For reducing stress there’s a collection of Anti-Anxiety and Stress Spells you could consider (for both your daughter and yourself- in such stressful times, it’s important to remember to care for yourself too!) :pray:

Wiccan-Spells-For-Anxiety

Perhaps you would also like to be added to the Energy Exchange Wiki that @praecog29 has so kindly put together for the coven?

You are both in my thoughts, Marcie- many blessings and much love to you and your daughter! :pray::heart:

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So much love for both you and your daughter, @marcie. You’re a good Mom because otherwise, she wouldn’t have come to you so you could get her the help she needs. Will be sending you good vibes and hope that she’s able to come home today.

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I will gladly send strength and clear thinking .
to your girl. She seems to be at the stage in her life where she has all these grown up problems and decisions that she isn’t prepared for.
Sweet Marcie, you’ve taught her right from wrong, that’s all any good parent can do.
Nicole will do well, but be sure she has a good councilor and support group.
Do you remember being a teenage, ‘best years of your life?’ my butt. It was awful and that’s what she too is going through.
Be brave, be strong and be there for her.
And Marcie, save some time and rest for yourself.
Garnet

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I’m sorry you’re going through this, Marcie. You are doing the best job as a parent anyone could do, and it sounds like you are doing it almost alone.

Please know that I am lifting you and her up in prayer. :raised_hands: :raised_hands: Take it easy on yourself. My heart goes out to you and your daughter.

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@marcie My heart goes out to her, and you. I work in a mental health clinic and see kids like your sweet girl all the time. And I also see some of the parents of these kids and let me tell you straight up, you did not fail her. As a mom myself though, I understand that feeling and I still have to remind myself that things can’t be fixed with a hello kitty bandaid and a kiss anymore. The best thing you can do is to be there for her and that sounds like just what you’re doing so you’re doing great :hugs: :revolving_hearts:

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Thank you @Peaches. The stories she has told me now that she’s home, (only a 2 day stay) are incredibly heart breaking. Compared to what the other kids are experiencing in their lives made her feel like she has nothing to complain about. But, stress can do a lot to a person, we all know that. As an adult you’ve learned how to manage it. I’m happy that I didn’t have social media and all the internet access the kids have today. These poor kids don’t know how to cope when they’re bombarded by the world! the internet and social media is being subjected to not just your school or friends but all the other meaningless stuff out there. She said she actually liked. not having a phone at the ready. I appreciate your kind words.:relaxed:

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Thank you @Francisco for thinking of us and sending prayers. I appreciate it. She’s home actually having only had a 2 day stay. It’s now time to help her make a plan to better handle stress. Thank you again :slight_smile:

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Thank you @Garnet for reminding me I need to take care of me too! I always seem to forget that. Yes, I definitely agree teen years are the worst. I would never want to do them over again. She home now, which is great and we’re working on a plan to help manage her stress better. Thank you again for taking time to respond to my post.:blush:

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Thanks so much @Amethyst :slight_smile: She was able to come home after only 2 days. Being there gave her some insight on what other kids are also going through (actually much worse than her she tells me) so it’s put things in more perspective. It’s a life lesson. We’re now working on a plan to help her better manage her stress. Thanks again for sending the good vibes​:heart:

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I appreciate your kind words @TheMuslimWitch. My daughter had a brief 2 day stay but came out of her experience with a new mindset in so far as comparing herself to the other kids she met while there. She was heartbroken hearing their stories. She’s somewhat an Empath so that was hard for her to even wrap her head around what they are going through. We’ve got some work to do to help manage her stress but she’s got a mindset that things aren’t as bad as they seem. Thank you again for your kind words. It’s greatly appreciated :heart:

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@TheTravelWitch your comments are greatly appreciated. I’m happy to say she came home yesterday after only a 2 day stay. The one thing we do have is a good communication. She just wasn’t expressing how stressed she was. Completely hiding it from everyone :frowning: But after here brief stay and meeting other kids her age and younger, she’s realized that her struggles are minimal compared to all the other kids she encountered. She was telling me stories of what some of them endure and it is so heartbreaking. Her focus now, and mine, is to make a plan to help her manage her stress
better. I also want to thank you for the spell references. Now that I have some down time I’m going to make use of them. Thank you again :two_hearts:

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You are very welcome, @marcie- I’m so glad to hear that your daughter is home safe and doing much better :heart: I hope the spellwork can help you to ease any lingering stress. You are both still in my thoughts- continue to take care of yourselves!

Blessed be! :revolving_hearts:

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Sending prayers for you and your daughter. Just sit with her and hug her and kiss her forehead and tell her Momma is here always and both of you will heal. Never feel like you failed……you will feel better and so will your daughter Sendings big hugs

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Thank you @LadyFireCancer :two_hearts:

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Thank you so much :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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I am sorry to hear your daughter is not doing well! Not too long ago I felt I fell off the bandwagon and felt like I could not come back! It doesn’t matter how hard you fall you can always come back!
I hope that you can relay this message to her for guidance! It’s all about self-love :heart:! Sometimes when we deny ourselves the self-care we need things like this to happen and we get off track! Cool thing is that we can always get back on track! Let her know that if she can help herself spirituality!

My advice is to take baths spiritual baths exercise and do anything that will help you get back on track.

Yes sometimes we feel ashamed of ourselves but don’t be a shame life is a journey and that means it’s time to move on and move forward if you fall that doesn’t mean that you can’t get back up it just means that you have to figure out why you fell in the first place is it stress is it because you’re overwhelmed?
Most importantly having a spiritual connection with the god or goddess is important! If you can’t make time for that or your spiritual guides then it’s easy to get off track that’s just my personal opinion. This is not religion I’m not talking about religion I’m talking about taking care of herself spiritually.
Set a schedule aside find time to do things for yourself tap into yourself. “get into the journey” If you do get off track figure out why you got off track. What are your intentions for the day? What can you do differently? Listen to a song :musical_note: Write a poem write a prayer try to do a gratitude list. Tap into the energy that is healing because this is a healing journey! If you fall off get into a routine that you could get back into.
If you feel called to take a break then take a break.
You could do a cleansing ritual or a releasing ritual or meditate. Elevate herself having enough wiggle room and flexibility! I can give you a meditation on self-love or self-compassion.
Self-love and self compassion meditationSelf-love and self compassion meditation!
Messing up is okay it’s just about how you build yourself up again and I just want to pray :pray:t4: for you sending you love :heart: and light your way! Don’t worry :wink: she seems like a strong person despite her fall! I hope she recovers soon! Sending you positive vibes!
Jeannie
:infinite_roots:

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Marcie girl, that’s what family is for.

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I’m glad she was able to learn something while she was in that place, but she shouldn’t compare. It’s apples and oranges. I hope you’re able to help her with her stress. If you need anything, just holler!

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