# Experienced something different **URL:** \ **Category:** General Discussion\ **Created:** [July 23, 2026, 5:01pm UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322 "2026-07-23T17:01:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![kocarika](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/k/8edcca/32.png) [@kocarika](https://forum.spells8.com/u/kocarika)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2026, 5:01pm UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/1 "2026-07-23T17:01:11Z")
I helped my family one of my mom sisters yesterday to get through a court battle with eviction and everything went as it was supposed to the court day got pushed to September but later on that evening she started being mean and wicked to me and then she turned in to a demon later that night and was in my face hollering at me and then she messaged me she was sorry I didn’t reply back but I helped her and she treated me mean my other aunt didn’t like how she was acting I plan leaving from this situation any day now and try to completely ignore her because she acts so nice but be so mean and I can’t understand why she treat the ones that help her bad I also helped my cousin and he turned on him also it was like they were my enemies and not my family and I just sat there watching listening and thinking why ---
**Author:** ![Amethyst](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/user_avatar/forum.spells8.com/amethyst/32/1750_2.png) [@Amethyst](https://forum.spells8.com/u/Amethyst)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2026, 10:42pm UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/2 "2026-07-23T22:42:25Z")
I’m sorry this is happening to you. Stress makes people do ugly things. Have you thought of medical reasons? I mean, does he have any mood problems, or is this the first time it’s happened? Does she need a medical workup? Things like that. Just remember, though, either way, you should never set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Take care of you. Sending good vibes to you! ---
**Author:** ![leilani1](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/l/c37758/32.png) [@leilani1](https://forum.spells8.com/u/leilani1)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2026, 11:24pm UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/3 "2026-07-23T23:24:44Z")
Thoughtful Thursday Kocarika, Yes, family dynamics can be exhausting. Is it possible it is a mood disorder? (Bi-polar, or something). No matter what is happening, you have to do what is right for **YOU**. You cannot allow other people’s happiness [or lack thereof] to dictate how you want to live your life. I know this is hard, especially in the moment. You need to try to **not** react when they are > [@kocarika](#): > > in my face hollering at me I think that often is a sign of control. They are looking how to get your anger up, to diffuse their anger. What I am saying, is if they can upset you, then there is no longer their stress, but they can focus on your anger. Completely disassociating their anger [frustration, what-have-you]from themselves and focusing on your anger issue. I know, sounds like an oxymoron, and it is!! I suggest meditation and grounding for yourself to keep your head together. I actually speak with Athena (East and Air) daily and ask for her wisdom to guide me through the day. I also ask Tiamat (West, Water) for her help of _control through the chaos_ [she is a Mesopotamian primordial goddess]. These 2 Goddesses and what they represent, wisdom and self-control, help me to get through each day. Each evening, likewise, I thank them for giving me the strength and help through the day. That is all I can offer you. Just remember – - I am Vital - I am Strong - I am Unique - I Belong This affirmation I find useful and uplifting the moment you say it. Thinking of you and sending you all good vibes!! Lady Gene 🫂 :phoenix: ---
**Author:** ![kocarika](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/k/8edcca/32.png) [@kocarika](https://forum.spells8.com/u/kocarika)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2026, 4:12am UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/4 "2026-07-24T04:12:02Z")
Thank you I have seen both of there names I’m gonna do some work with them I know they will be able to help me stay strong I will be leaving this place and not looking back since I lost my grandma and my mom back to back so they will miss me and regret how they treated me after I helped them and I think it’s more than that with them both alcohol and drugs so I can’t be around this so I will remove myself immediately and start over fresh I’m gonna work with them goddess I have a list of many but I wanted to change my living situation but I guess I can start now thank you so much that the best help in the world I really appreciate you and I know this will make everything better going forward ---
**Author:** ![kocarika](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/k/8edcca/32.png) [@kocarika](https://forum.spells8.com/u/kocarika)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2026, 4:23am UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/5 "2026-07-24T04:23:06Z")
I just looked them both up and the entire time I stayed calmed and I didn’t let them make me want to feed into it and now I’m thinking that’s what they was both trying to do make me react but I was strong but what bothers me that it’s family it’s not strangers on the street it’s close people who been in my life I’m definitely gonna work with them both thank you so much ---
**Author:** ![georgia](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/user_avatar/forum.spells8.com/georgia/32/36283_2.png) [@georgia](https://forum.spells8.com/u/georgia)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2026, 3:23am UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/6 "2026-07-25T03:23:23Z")
This has happened to me so often that I escaped half way across the country and no longer have contact with them. If you try something similar, be aware they may try to trick you into coming back to them. It is an issue of power over. You seem to be one who, like me, prefers power with. Hold onto your preferences, your values, and your sanity. You are worth it. My mother prefers to keep things secret, so she has never been diagnosed. In my young adulthood, I gave up on fighting teenage angst and began acting out what goes on at home. No one believed me because Mom looked so put together and kept things in the closet. So she never got help, but I was diagnosed with all kinds of stuff which I still consider _hers_, not mine. Speaking my truth didn’t help- only escape did. May you have better luck handling them. When I came across strangers acting like that, later, I was able to protect myself through recognition. I told the instigators they were not my mother and kicked them out of my life. Be strong. You got this! You don’t have to become like them. 💜 ---
**Author:** ![leilani1](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/l/c37758/32.png) [@leilani1](https://forum.spells8.com/u/leilani1)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2026, 7:42pm UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/7 "2026-07-25T19:42:20Z")
Scary Saturday, Georgia, Kocarika, > [@georgia](#): > > I escaped half way across the country and no longer have contact with them. Yep, myself too, and still did not quite work as I wanted it to. > [@georgia](#): > > I gave up on fighting teenage angst and began acting out what goes on at home I have to say this was difficult, but yes, finally stopped trying to _please_ others by doing what is _right_ (as a teenager, we are always trying to “fit-in”) > [@georgia](#): > > When I came across strangers acting like that, later, I was able to protect myself through recognition. This is a benefit that many do not understand, _hind-sight_. Now, you know what it looks like, and you know how it disguises itself. More power to you!! By knowing what we are dealing with… > [@georgia](#): > > When I came across strangers acting like that, later, I was able to protect myself through recognition. Then you are about 80% ahead of the game to start with. You Go, Baby!!! Lady Gene :phoenix: ---
**Author:** ![georgia](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/user_avatar/forum.spells8.com/georgia/32/36283_2.png) [@georgia](https://forum.spells8.com/u/georgia)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2026, 1:31pm UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/8 "2026-07-26T13:31:46Z")
> [@leilani1](#): > > By knowing what we are dealing with… If I can do it, you can too, @kocarika! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![kocarika](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/k/8edcca/32.png) [@kocarika](https://forum.spells8.com/u/kocarika)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2026, 9:54pm UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/9 "2026-08-11T21:54:22Z")
Yes I left and life has been way much better I told them I will never come back only to be buried next to my mom ---
**Author:** ![kocarika](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/letter_avatar_proxy/v4/letter/k/8edcca/32.png) [@kocarika](https://forum.spells8.com/u/kocarika)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2026, 3:58pm UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/10 "2026-08-12T15:58:34Z")
Yes and you are definitely strong with your experience I am so happy I have move forward away from the hatred and negativity I love peace and happiness and my magical 🪄powers ---
**Author:** ![georgia](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/user_avatar/forum.spells8.com/georgia/32/36283_2.png) [@georgia](https://forum.spells8.com/u/georgia)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2026, 2:57pm UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/11 "2026-08-13T14:57:32Z")
I’m proud of you for supporting independence and happiness in life. You go girl! Be the best you which you can be- for you, and to show those who come after that it can be done! You become the teacher and hero, which is a cool form of witchery, affecting those in future generations to be the best they can be, too. ---
**Author:** ![TricksterShaman](https://spells8.b-cdn.net/user_avatar/forum.spells8.com/trickstershaman/32/76914_2.png) [@TricksterShaman](https://forum.spells8.com/u/TricksterShaman)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2026, 2:08pm UTC](https://forum.spells8.com/t/experienced-something-different/68322/12 "2026-10-30T14:08:36Z")
I’ve nothing to add to the wonderful support already given, just sending you love 💚🫂