I like the way you put this. I decorate my space according to what I want to feel and dress according to how I really feel. There isn’t often a disparity, unless I don’t feel safe, but when there is, I’d like to start crafting according to what I want to feel.
Before Covid, If I was in a rough mood, I would go out on a bus trek, knowing I faked my emotions on my face for the benefit of others. By the time I got home, the faked emotional show had become real. I honored that metamorphosis until I couldn’t anymore for safety reasons. It has not returned yet, so I’m seeking another path.