So I started practicing wicca for a few months now but I still find it a bit difficult to do it on my own , I have a lot of questions and I’m confused about a lot of things ; I need guidance. I feel like it would be much easier for me if I was in a coven or if I had a mentor, Unfortunately for me , it’s impossible to find a coven near where I live ( I’m in the middle of nowhere) so lately I’ve been wondering if it’s possible to find an online coven/mentor ? I’m not good at governing myself and perseverance has never been my strong suit , I’m starting to feel doubt and I feel like I need help …
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Hi Aileen!
Finding a mentor is not always an easy connection to make. The Craft is all about self-discovery and finding what works for you. You can get advice and mentorship but it’s important to discover your own path.
Before working with you, most covens/teachers will expect that:
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You’ve read a couple of books, or you have some kind of spiritual training.
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You have a pretty good idea of who you are as a person, and how you fit in the world.
If you have specific questions or want to talk to someone you can always post them here. Me and @MeganB are always happy to help! You can send us a private message (click my username and find “Message”).
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Just like with anything new, the best you can do is read a lot. Start a journal. 
Write down things you have questions about. When you have free time, study them one at a time as to let the information and rituals stay with you.
Ask yourself what you want out of Wicca. Write it down. After you’ve studied for a while, go back to what you wrote you wanted out of Wicca. Has it changed? If so, how? Journal that. It’s all a path, you never stop learning.
Go outside and commmune with Nature. Listen to the beauty and majesty that exists outside of your head, and breathe slowly, in and out. Just being in nature, breathing, watching living things outside of your head - even if its 5 minutes! - can make a world of difference.
If you haven’t already, watch this video series:
https://spells8.com/courses/wicca-self-initiation/
I highly recommend you to read Scott Cunningham’s book Wicca: A Guide for the Solitary Practitioner
, it’s a wonderful book that will teach and explain to you everything you need to know.
Good luck and blessings! 
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I really want to buy books , I have about 6 waiting in my Amazon cart , problem is , I don’t have any money … I wish that wicca may help me find myself , who I really am , what I really want to do , just find my way , I’ve been lost in the dark for so long …
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I can definitely understand wanting to buy books and not having the money. Is there any chance you can take advantage of a local library instead? I have several books in my Amazon wishlist as well, but I can’t get the right now.
I agree with Francisco on reading more and asking questions.
Part of the problem with practicing on your own is you have to be self-driven and motivated. Now, this is a problem with a lot of people because our everyday lives tend to get in the way, we get tired, or we even forget. I recommend creating a schedule for yourself. Get a planner, or even just a notebook, and jot down the things you have to do that day plus the things you want to get done. Give yourself an allotted amount of time for reading. Take notes, write down questions, and reach out to those of us that may be able to help you.
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This is perfectly normal and you should allow yourself to have these feelings. Who you are is the combination of the thoughts you have, the tasks you do and your impact on others.
You can find out who you are, your strengths and weaknesses taking a personality test such as this (free) one, which gives a really good picture:
If you need advice or guidance through tarot feel free to contact me through a private message and I will arrange a personalized reading for you.
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Thank you so much to both of you for the wonderful tips and encouragement ! You guys are so nice ! 
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This website https://spells8.com/ has been a blessing for me to find! It is LOADED with so much information. And this forum has been great, you could literally get lost for hours in it!
I’ve also joined a lot of “witchy” Facebook groups. Which is free - it may be a great place to start. I’ve made many wonderful connections already with like-minded people. 
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What Facebook groups are you in ? Could I join ? 
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I’m in several. You can join any of them. I just searched 'witch groups" and thousands came up lol.
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That’s right! thousands come up… But that’s part of the problem with those Facebook groups, there are a hundred thousand people posting all the time and anything new gets buried in a minute.
Some time ago I joined Wicca and Witchcraft for Beginners which is nice for browsing around but it’s almost impossible to find anything.
@Missa I recommend you search in facebook for “Witches in (your city) or (your state)”. That way you’ll probably find a smaller and more organized community.
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Good idea narrowing it down!
I’ve found two that I really enjoy. Both are Green witchy groups. I joined a bunch and ended up leaving a bunch…as the people were awful.
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I am in a group called DIY Witches on Facebook and it appears to be a lovely group so far. The admins are heavily involved, and I haven’t seen any negativity or bashing of any kind. I have left a few Facebook groups because they weren’t moderated and they got filled with people who wanted to physically turn themselves into mythical creatures (like mermaids) or who were telling everyone that what they were doing was fake, a fantasy, and that they needed to stop LARPing.
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I finally said screw it and created my own group… LOL!
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I know this topic has been several months in the closet so I am going to dust it off and bring up something that I found to be very important part of my spiritual health and well being in general (bipolar disorder). I have found meditation. That’s right, a small and easy to use tool to keep yourself in check and your thoughts positive. It helps to raise your energy and vibration that aids in finding your way out of the dark, manifest anything you have an intensive focus on and bring about joy and happiness which is what Wicca does for me. Most of all I do with ritual and spellcasting is done either while meditating or afterward when I get a sudden intuitive inspiration.
The personality test is also a wonderful way to find out what your strengths and weaknesses are, I do one at least yearly (BS in Psychology) to find out what has changed, if anything. As we grow, our personality can also grow.
Spells8 has a wealth of good information. I do not use any other resource unless I need to understand and read about something. If you have an amazon account, amazon unlimited is a low cost solution to buying books. I think I only pay $10.00 a month and found a ton of Witchcraft books that I am listening too. I love Lisa Champlain, her books are down to earth and what is also available here too so not much contradiction. I do however no like her Essential oil guide as a certified aromatherapist I find her information is a bit out dated and not quite accurate but then, I am OCD and tend to be a purist in terms of my EO blends and such.
I truly love this forum and website. It has helped me a lot to grow in the craft. I try to practice at least once a day with something new or continuation of my spiritual journey. I also incorporate my Catholic faith into what I am doing as I haven’t given up on that institution just yet. My husband is trying to find his balance as well. Good luck on your journey, may it bring you joy, peace, and light.
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So I’m back here again … It hasn’t gone any better … With everything going on in the world right I just feel ever more lost and confused , like my life is just spiraling out of control and I feel like I’m really loosing my connection to wicca … I don’t know how to reignite it , I don’t know where to start , I was so passionate and enthusiastic at first , what happened to me ? I’m so lost …
I really really don’t want to sound like a martyr or like I’m begging , but I need your help … can anyone show me how to reconnect with wicca ? How can I reignite the dying fire inside of me ?
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You’re in the best coven you’ll find 
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Tonite is the perfect nite to let go of these expectations you’ve been putting on yourself to witch properly. Release your ideas of what Wicca should look like and know that it’s called a practice because it’s something we never stop practicing visualize yourself as a strong powerful witch and so mote it shall be.
Start incorporating simple rituals~make things fun again. Implement magick in areas of your life you hadn’t thought of~even as simple as glamour magick on your hair brush~do some guided meditations~find a good podcast~oh and Instagram has a good witchy community (if you want to find me I’m @alice_in_wonderdab_)
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I just went outside to charge some moon water alongside my crystals and amulets , it felt really good to meditate under the moonlight after such a long time
I was wondering, is it okay to “improvise” a bit in your spells and chants? When I was charging my amulets I wasn’t really following any particular spells but more going with my ‘gut’ feeling and doing what felt right to me (hard to explain) is that alright or should I always follow the spells ?
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Witch craft has no hard and fast “rules” it’s mostly intuitive and natural. I always go with my intuition on my spellcasting. To practice I did follow the spells but as I got more confidence in my ability, the more I realized that witch craft is what I make of it, not following what someone else has defined it for themselves. Find your own path, make those spells yours by incorporating your divine energy and intuition into your craft. I change almost everything if it feels like the right thing to do for me. Just tonight I was agonizing over the black mirror purification because it calls for doing the ritual outside under the full moon. Here in Wyoming, it’s cold, windy, still snowing and miserably cold…did I mention how cold it was? lol so I asked if it would be ok to move my ritual indoors and got an answer, so the mirror went outside while I drove to pick up my daughter from work (3 hours round trip mind you) and finished the rest indoors which was what I wrote myself for the intention. My candles (all 9 of them) burned bright and steady the whole time which indicates that my spell and intention was accepted and was done with love in my heart.
As for doing something every day, have you dabbled with herbs and essential oils yet? I have found that researching herbs and making intention or spell jars a fine way to reignite my passion. If you are crafty at all or have a hobby, incorporate it into your spellwork. I blend essential oils, make infused oils, and create chakra roller ball blends that I sell (with personalized intention jars). This keeps the spellwork in practice. Also, I have a daily ritual I do every morning which includes grounding and centering meditation, then have my coffee. Ariel Gatoga has some really good guided meditations on Youtube.
Always remember that you are powerful, no one can take that from you except you. You were born with power, practice just brings it out better. The darkness will lift as it has to, the light is coming as it has to. The cycle of light and dark is just that, a cycle. The Divine source may be telling you something in that darkness. Everything is a lesson to be learned.
Love, Peace, and Harmony to you! Blessed Be! 
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Sending warm thoughts to you, @MidnightVixxen 
There has been some great advice shared in this thread- so let me add the reassurance that it is perfectly okay to phase in and out of your practice. Like the moon in the sky, it can not shine at full strength 24/7, every night of the month. The moon must take breaks and rest in order to shine brightly at other times 
This is true for your practice too- so try to show empathy and kindness to yourself during times of rest! It sounds like you have a lot on your mind these days- we do live during crazy times.
Have you found the Self-Love and Self-Care spells and rituals on the Spells8 site? They are great ways to ease magick back into your routine in a way that feels good in comfortable- not to mention the positive mental health benefits! 
Bath Spell for Self-Love and Care
Sending lots of love, light, and support to you, MidnightVixxen! Blessed be 
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