I am in need of guidance. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and I have gave up a lot for him. I have moved all the way across the states so he can be close to his family. We are not in a good place with each other right now and I am looking for a spell to help guide me through this tough time to make sure that I am doing the right thing by staying with him or to give him up for my peace of mind. Any help would be appreciated.
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@mickie sorry that your going through this. I’m in that boat too without a paddle as it’s sunk to the bottom. 
It’s so tough to feel like you are giving more than you are getting. It’s like we give for them to never have them replenish us with the same. I send you love, understanding, and hope. Ill be following to see if anyone comes up with a spell to find what’s the right choice. Never thought about that.
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I could offer something, but it is very difficult to do. Most people hear, but don’t follow up with action. It ends up becoming a matter of doing whatever you are going to do.
Sit quietly. Imagine your toes growing into the earth. Visualize a rainbow bridge from your brain to your heart so energy and information can flow both ways. Ask both brain and heart for their opinions and the reasons they respond the way they do.
Take two sheets of paper. On one side, label the top line “positives of staying”; on the back, "negatives of staying; on the other, “positives of leaving” and “negatives of leaving.” The object is to be honest with yourself. One side may be clearly longer than the rest, but a shorter side may have a “deal breaker” or some goal which is more important than all the rest. Then comes the hard part: once you know your truth, ACT ON IT. Wavering causes confusion.
I’d wish you Good Luck, but this is more a matter of courage and determination.
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Hello @mickie,
I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through a tough time 
It sounds like you have a big decision to make- Georgia shared a great exercise to help decisions, and I’d like to add in a few additional things you might do to help guide your coming choices.
Depending on what you decide is best for you, there are plenty of spells to help you move forward on the path you choose. I personally like Road Opener Spells- they clear the path of blockages and remove unhelpful challenges to make it easier to move forward. This type of spell works best when the caster has already made up their mind and is sure about their intention.
Here is a good Road Opener:
Whatever you choose, I’m wishing you all the best, Mickie!
Blessed be 
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Thank you so much. I never thought about the pros and cons.
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The meditative aspect of what @georgia is saying is really great as it will help clear your heart and mind, allowing you to better think through the situation without all the bubbling confusion and whirlwind of feelings of guilt, how things “should” be, and all that. (Well, I mean, all of what she is saying is great – I just wanted to elaborate on that one bit as to why I think you should really do it!)
This is somewhere between the making decisions and road-opening things that @BryWisteria shared, so I’m not sure how helpful it will be for you, but you could try this:
Recognising your inner truth is the key that unlocks the doors to journeying beyond the facades and misconceptions we often harbour about ourselves and, instead, embracing the divine power residing within us. This path can be initiated through a dedicated ritual. For six weeks, set aside a regular moment in the week for reflection and recite these empowering words:
Reveal to me, through visions true,
The dreams I cherish, both divine and new.
Who I am and who I am destined to be,
Capture my focus, grant me clarity.
Let me perceive the unvarnished truth,
And in that revelation, discover my true self.
This practice is designed to bring forth enlightening realisations, dreams, and intuitive messages meant to align you with your truest self and your fullest potential.
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Thank you for this. I will try this.
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@mickie I don’t have much else that wasn’t already mentioned. I agree that meditation and prayer is a good route to go. I know this is difficult. Whatever you decide treat yourself with loving kindness, compassion and respect and we’re all here for you! 
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Sending you love. Try and be gentle with yourself. Decisions like these are challenging but worth making. You’ve got this. Also, that road opener spell is great. I hope the above suggestions help.
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I don’t have much to add that hasn’t already been said, but I just wanted to offer up hugs and support Challenging situations such as you are in are never easy, but I hope you are able to find some peace through whatever spells and meditations you use!
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