Saying No
Saying no to something or someone can be incredibly difficult. Sometimes you genuinely want to help, but you have to refuse because of other commitments. Other times you want to refuse but feel guilty and as if you have to say yes. Either way, not saying no means you end up with too much on your plate or handling something you don’t want to be involved with. This spell can strengthen your resolve and help you say no with kindness and confidence. You don’t owe anyone an explanation beyond, “I’m sorry, I just can’t take that on right now.”
What You Need:
Silver candle with holder
Matches or lighter
Rose quartz
Jasper (color your choice; green or red recommended)
Black tourmaline
1 teaspoon honey
What To Do:
- Center and ground.
- Light the candle, saying, “My time has value. My life balance has value. My energy has value.”
- Set the stones in a triangle around the candle. Place the rose quartz in front and the other two stones to either side behind the candle.
- Dip your finger into the honey and touch the rose quartz, saying, “I deserve to live guilt-free about my choices. I am my own person with the right to make my own decisions.”
- Dip your finger in the honey again and touch the jasper, saying, “I balance my activities to the best of my ability. Each area of my life deserves its own space and attention. I will not rob time or energy from any of them to satisfy someone else’s expectations.”
- Dip your finger in the honey a third time and touch the black tourmaline, saying, “My energy is my own. It belongs to no one but the people I choose to give it to. It is protected from those who would steal it or abuse it.”
- Allow the candle to burn down.
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You can carry these stones in a pouch to have their energy with you to help support your resolution. You may want to wrap them in a small scrap of white or blue cloth first so the sticky honey doesn’t gum up the inside of the pouch.
Green jasper is a good stone to use when working for balance between different areas of your life. Red jasper also helps with balance and with strengthening boundaries. Use one or both in this spell.
I took this spell verbatim from Arin Murphy-Hiscock’s book PROTECTION SPELLS: clear negative energy, banish unhealthy influences, and embrace your power, 2018, hardcover, $22.99 Cdn.
She forgot to say wash your fingers before and lick them afterwards! 
This book is great. There are 144 pages of spells across 4 chapters: Body and Spirit, House and Home, Family and Friends, and Out and About. There are chapters on An Introduction to Spellcrafting, Rituals, and Protective Objects as well.
Arin is a green witch from Montreal, Canada and author of The Green Witch, The House Witch, and others.
Thank you for sharing this one here!
Thank you for sharing!
