Book Title and Author
Happiness in Your Life: Forgiveness
by Doe Zantamata
Status
Finished
My Overall Rating of the Book
7/10
How does this book relate to my magical practice?
The key take away for me from this book is forgiveness is for me, not for those I forgive. Itās for my healing and my being made whole. While not specifically about my magical practice, healing from trauma helps with my intentions, my focus, and so many other aspects of my life.
An Interesting Quote from the Book
People who donāt forgive say,
āI cannot accomplish something BECAUSE OF that person.āPeople who forgive say,
āI can accomplish something REGARDLESS of that person.ā
A full and real apology contains five things:
- A realization of what they did wrong
- Taking responsibility for their words and actions
- Expressing sincere remorse
- An effort to make amends
- Assurance that it wonāt happen again in the future
The more you have of these, the less likely it is to happen again. The fewer you have these, the more likely it will happen again.
The above quotes are from chapters 6 and 8, respectively.
Would I recommend this book?
Yes, if you have been through a bad relationship or had a falling out with a best friend or family member. I thought this was the weakest of her 4 books but overall I would still recommend it as it ties into the other books nicely. It covers things like the process of forgiveness, using meditation to help, and the benefits of forgiveness. She also has a section discussing the differences between revenge, punishment, and justice and how forgiveness works within those frameworks.
Book Title and Author
Happiness in Your Life: Trust
by Doe Zantamata
Status
Finished
My Overall Rating of the Book
8/10
How does this book relate to my magical practice?
We only have a certain amount of time here on earth, and we never know just how much that will be. If we truly value our own time and the time of others, we can navigate away from situations that waste it and towards those deep, meaningful connections that make the most beautiful and worthwhile experiences in life come true. - Chapter 5, TRUST AND CONNECTION
While, again, not specifically about magic, these are the kinds of books I need at this stage in my life. The quote above is a perfect example from this book and it is easy to see how one could apply that to anything else from their lives, including interactions in a coven. 
Interesting Quotes from the Book
Trust is like air to our relationship. Without it, the relationship not survive. It must be valued and prioritized because with it, you have a mountain of confidence, but if it is broken, that mountain crumbles to dust.
When a person says, ātrust is something that needs to be earned,ā itās a big sign that this personās trust was broken one too many times and they got fed up."
ā¦but people who go by the trust has to be earned philosophy are already convicting every single person in the world for their crimes that donāt even exist and think thatās a good way to go. Itās not. No honest, good person with a healthy self-esteem will sign up for this. Why would they? Even if they like someone, being convicted and jailed mentally and emotionally is unfair punishment and itās hurtful to someone who has done nothing wrong. -Chapter 1, THE IMPORTANCE OF TRUST
You are not a fool for trusting someone who lied to you. They are the fool for lying to someone who trusted them. -Chapter 1, THE IMPORTANCE OF TRUST
(The second half of the book is harder for people who are not ready to accept it so I wonāt quote from it.)
Would I recommend this book?
Yes. 
This is not a book for people that are still hurting, still need to forgive and release things. They wonāt be ready for the second half of the book. But for people that have been in the process of healing from trauma of all kinds, this book is necessary when they are ready for it.
. Itās a great concept, but it is certainly easier said than done! This is a lesson I am still working on for myself 
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