@christina4, your dream to me speaks of past hurt and neglect your mind is trying to make sense of and process the related feelings… in another topic I remember you mentioned having PTSD which I’ve also been diagnosed with so I can see a lot of similarities. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that, I know that’s not easy, and I apologize in advance if I say something that hurts or is triggering, or if I’m just reading things wrong.
The girl most likely is your inner child, the most sensitive and vulnerable part of you who got hurt by whatever you’ve had to go through… she isn’t as much dead as buried under a lot of guilt and defense mechanisms, but her “death” in the dream is a cry for help. That she’s also helping you tells of reaching out too, by helping her you’re also helping yourself and the other way around.
The boy might be a tougher part of you, who’s helping you face it all. He means well, but his advice and actions might often be exaggerated.
The hateful man might be a caricature of a real person, or representing many hostile people and/or situations from your past. That you have to face him alone… if you’re sometimes dropping into a flashback you know you’re feeling very alone and small. It might help to know that it’s a survival mode meant to protect you, where all kinds of rational thinking is locked out on a physical level so it’s not the kind of state you can think yourself out of, not now and not in the past either. What might help though is to have a contingency plan for that in advance, like this 13 step list somewhere you can easily reach it.
A lot of this might be projection and if so I’m sorry for making assumptions… but if not, you’re not alone. Much love and power to you either way