When I connect to my grandpa or Gramma is it ok to speak to one of them and
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@Devenne I tend to speak to one, Iāve never had two come through, not to say it canāt happen. 
However when I chat with my psychic, more than one can come through via them. 
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Your welcome. It just takes a little time, and ground yourself. If you can try not to be nervouse when using your pendulum.
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Yeah pendulum never worked out for me. I had even gotten a stand. It wonāt move. I got different pendulum. I just was like ok then. I need to get in a better habit of the tarot cards and learning all the types of analysis and get more comfortable. But I feel like Iām doing a lot already with Lucifer And my shadow work. So I donāt have the time. Maybe Iāll try it again whenever I have more time. After I finish some other things.
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That sounds similar to me. I have two as well. Once I got the second, the first stopped responding well. It says itās jealous so we got in a one sided argument about if you donāt do anything, of course I will use the other pendulum. Lately Iāve been trying to communicate with Dark Lord Rosier. He seems to speak to me predominantly through a pendulum.
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yeah itās funny. Neither of them work and I felt like I was affecting the first one. Maybe Iāll try to use the other one withThe stand. The copper one I noticed it move the teenist lil smidge. I wasnāt messing with it I was in the dark looking at something else. I questioned if it was a trick or the eye. Super slight. I kinda laughed Iām thinking ok I see. You move on your own but not for me ?
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Oh my! @tracyS I am so sorry that I missed this & it was in no way intentional:
It makes sense that you wouldnāt with Loki, you have a beautiful connection with him!
As for the others, it could be the newness and the energy meeting with them. Even before I use my pendulum, read tarot, oracle, meet with my deitiesā¦ the things that work for me are pretty similar. I do notice a difference depending on how well Iām able to focus if I do less or more. So it depends on my energy for the day being different or situations 
I always light my protection candle & purification cleansing candles. Iāll put on my calming music, soundscape, or meditation music. Clear my area where Iām working (normally my bed if Iām being honest) put my mat down if Iāmusing one, lay out any crystals I feel connected to or connected with them with some clear quartz & some type of protection crystals, use a relaxing or related diffuser blend or incense. Get comfortable, settle in where you are as much as you can.
Take some intentional breaths in my nose, hold a second or two, out through my mouth, then 3 deep breathsā¦ 1st inhale through my nose, focusing on my question/intent, hold for 2 - 3, exhale through my mouth any excess negative, nervous, or unrelated thoughts/energy, 2nd inhale through my nose focusing on my question/intent, hold 2 - 3 still focusing, exhale through my mouth any tension relaxing my muscles, 3rd inhale focusing on my question/intent, hold focusing 2 -3, exhale releasing tension focusing on question/intent. (if Iām really holding any frazzled, soneone elseās, or other energy or any tension in my body Iāll do a progressive muscle relaxation before) After that still focusing with a clear & open mind on what Iām doing, I will proceed.
Once itās time to close & I have thanked them for their time or otherwise, I take 3 cleansing breaths. Have a a sip or a cup of water, & use breathwork, write whatever comes to mind down, answers, thoughts, experiences. Then I slowly get back to doing other things. Wiggling toes, legs, fingers arms. Iāll then clean my area & sometimes, I need to lay down, do breathwork, a short meditation, relaxing shower, walk outside, do something easy which also includes some kind of writing before getting back to things.
I donāt always have to do all of these things or in this order. It really depends how I feel before and afterward. Sometimes I take the 3 breaths after & need to lay down, closing my eyes doing breathwork before I can do anything, including taking sips of water.
I will always write immediately during or after so I donāt lose anything. Itās a rarity I breathe & need to lay right down, but itās happened. Then I write immediately when I am able to get up.
Okay, so thatās a lot, but if itās at all confusing or you have any questions feel free to ask! I have a couple other things I will do for different things more specific to who Iām meeting with or if itās a situation where Iām not sure who has something to say (normally if Iām asking who Iām with or if an ancestor, loved one would like to meet with me, on occasion a deity)
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@Susurrus This is very helpful, thankyou. Iāve bookmarked it so I can refer to it. Using crystals makes alot of sense. Theyāre good barriers. Thankyou lovely 
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Youāre very welcome. Theyāre things Iāve picked up along thecway that help me. Sometimes I will need tonground afterward & I have several ways I do that too. I try to do some type of grounding everyday. When I am doing any practice related work I ground before I start & a lot of times after as well.
Some things in my coping toolbox really help bring me to the present & out of the past or future, all over the place in my head, & able to release energy Iām holding in my body for whatever reason.
Itās a thing with SPS, HSP, Empath that I amā¦ nevermind the rest Learning how to manage any of it has been quite the process, especially once working with my intuition became a thing & not intentionally āblockingā it. Sometimes I fall back and know the walls are going up, so I have to work through whatever it is to keep them from becoming an impenetrable thing again. Also easier said than done 
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I made some grounding candles, and i now light one whenever i am doing my divination work and it helps out alot. Its to help ground you, to focus and to relax you.
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This is a great idea, I have been seeing a lot of grounding and focus and get back to using my crafts, I am working on it LOL. My friend did just give me a Focus spell from her card deck to help.
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On my post I made I used my moldvite and the results are great more engery and way better readings
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