I wanted to respond in more detail to @kira-marie’s thread, Dating as a pagan. Thoughts?, but I didn’t want to hijack her thread with what could end up as a bunch of rabbit trails.
I am a polyamorous eclectic witch in an open marriage with a bisexual (but extremely lesbian leaning) wife of nearly 20 years. I’m thankful no one is judging others on here.
(Disclaimer: The thankfully failed divorce attempt from earlier this year had nothing to do with religion or polyamory, in case people are wondering. )
It brings me such joy that she’s been with her partner for nearly two years. She’s dating probably the most patient, kind, loving, and open people in the world.
There is added pressure on us to be the best versions of ourselves that we can be. The last thing Christianity or Wicca needs is another scandalous person talking about their faith. The same is true about polyamory. The movement doesn’t need more drama. It needs more people like my wife and her girlfriend so it can be normalized.
I personally haven’t found the right person. We live in one of the most Evangelical Christian States in the United States so my eclectic beliefs are not celebrated where we live. The polyamory stops many relationships from ever forming but I have to be open about that from the beginning or there would be a lot of hurt feelings. I tried dating apps and Facebook groups but I have found the best luck by not trying at all and letting the universe align paths.
In Indiana most of the fun date ideas have been put on hold due to covid. On top of that, it’s getting cold and the governor just announced new restrictions on how many people can be at any indoor event. Dating for me is them coming over or me going to their house after we get to know each other better on social media and Zoom dates. So far that has worked well but you all have seen my wall altar. It’s hard to hide the pagan aspect of my beliefs.
I guess all I can say is be authentically you and let the chips fall where they may. Life is too short to be worried about others beliefs about you. As long as your life isn’t being threatened or harmed, you should be safe being yourself. I know it can be lonely at times, and chatting on here or discord isn’t the same as having someone to care for, but we are all here for each other when we need it and I love that about Spells8. It isn’t just about witchcraft. We have real community among eclectic witches and that is awesome.