Purpose: This spell is designed to help you honor and remember a loved one who has passed away. It focuses on creating a sacred space, connecting with the spirit of the deceased, and expressing gratitude for the memories you shared.
Materials Needed:
- A white candle (symbolizing purity and remembrance)
- A photograph or a personal belonging of the deceased (to establish a connection)
- A small bowl of water (representing emotions and the flow of life)
- Incense (lavender or sandalwood, for peace and calmness)
- A piece of paper and a pen
- A small offering (such as flowers, a favorite food, or a meaningful object)
Instructions:
Create a Sacred Space:
- Choose a quiet, comfortable place where you won’t be disturbed.
- Arrange the items in a circle in front of you, with the white candle in the center.
- Light the incense and let the calming scent fill the air. This will help cleanse the space and invite peaceful energies.
Ground and Center Yourself:
- Sit comfortably and take a few deep breaths, inhaling peace and exhaling tension.
- Visualize a white light surrounding you, protecting you, and connecting you to the spiritual realm.
Light the Candle:
- Light the white candle and focus on its flame. As you do, say: “Fire of remembrance, burn bright and clear, In honor of [name of the loved one], whom I hold dear.”
Invite the Spirit:
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Hold the photograph or personal belonging of your loved one. Close your eyes and visualize their face, remembering their voice, their smile, and the warmth they brought into your life. Feel their presence around you.
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Say: “Spirit of [name of the loved one], I call to you, With love, honor, and respect, my heart speaks true. Join me now in this sacred space, Bring your light, your love, your grace.”
Express Your Thoughts and Feelings:
- Take the piece of paper and pen. Write down your thoughts, feelings, or a message you wish to convey to your loved one. This could be a memory, a thank you, or something you never got to say.
- Once you have written your message, read it aloud, feeling the emotions flow through you.
Make an Offering:
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Place the small offering (flowers, food, or object) in front of the candle. This is a token of your love and respect.
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As you place the offering, say: "[Name of the loved one], this gift I give to thee, In honor of the life you’ve lived. May you find peace in realms beyond, Wrapped in light, surrounded by love."
Closing the Ritual:
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Take the bowl of water and gently sprinkle a few drops around the candle, symbolizing the cleansing of sorrow and the flow of healing.
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Say: “Water of life, cleanse and renew, Heal my heart, make me whole. [Name of the loved one], though we are apart, Your memory will always live in my heart.”
Extinguish the Candle:
- Blow out the candle, but know that the flame of memory will continue to burn in your heart.
- Keep the photograph or belonging in a special place to remind you of the connection that transcends time and space.
After the Spell:
- Take a moment to reflect on the experience.
- You may wish to write in a journal about any feelings or messages you received during the ritual.
- Remember that this spell is a way to keep the bond with your loved one alive and to honor their memory with love and respect.
- Repeat the ritual whenever you feel the need to connect or honor your lost loved one.
Note: Feel free to adjust the wording or steps to better suit your personal beliefs and practices. The power of the spell lies in your intention and the love you hold in your heart.
love you Grandma Ruth and Grandpa Tom 
