Work drama, what to do?

Long story short, a few months ago, like about 7-8 months ago we got a new employee, well it was him and his wife. His work is great but ever since they came in I feel like they feel entitled. The entitlement for me shows because a month after getting hired they got keys and they came in and still come in and leave when they desire, I feel also they have more leniency just because he does more work in the aspect that he does more advance repairs that I can do, mind you I just went in as a sales rep and months letter without having any knowledge on repairs I started getting into repairs and now I do them. I feel like like my contributions to the job are now overlooked and they get placed on a pedestal, even her sister told me that that is why she doesn’t come to the store as much because it’s them this and that, her sister (my boss) glorifies them. I have spoken about it to her and she says we are here to work as a team and don’t feel left out but I do feel left out when they get more favored, for instance when the guy was sick he called for updates on some work and she tells him no, no don’t worry about it you rest, I will take care of it or if they need days they get them, come and go as they please but yet me with kids, I do all possible to show up, for instance I was supposed to have Valentine’s Day off but when I brought it up she was like we will see even though she approved the day, or say if my kids are sick she will be like well can’t your mother in law watch them. I feel so unfaired and have broke down crying, I am trying my best not to cry while typing this. Also, if there is a day I can’t make it, she will ask me a way to make it and before they came in she would be like oh, it’s ok we can close the store for a day and now if I can’t make it she will be like well can’t you work half day. I just miss how she was before they came in, she was way more understanding and now I feel she is so blinded by them. Also, like a week ago his wife asked me if I did the work that our Boss told me to do, mind you I get really busy and had to place things to the side and I told her no, that I was busy and she had the audacity to tell me, well, she told you 3x to do it (my Boss) in my mind I was like who is you to talk or even ask me that, you don’t write my check. Oh, and the cherry on top, my boss since I started working with her she takes about a week off and I have to open and close for the entire week, mind you she doesn’t ask me if I can or anything she just writes it in the calendar and I have to figure it out but yet when I want at least a Saturday off, I have to jump through hoops. So, what would you guys recommend I do? I have talked to my boss but nothing, so now spell work it is. Also, it’s so hard for me even more because I lost my mom last year and I feel I have no one to talk too, I feel so alone. I have my spouse but just talking to my mom felt so calming and assuring. I thank everyone that has read this far.

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It’s time to rip off the band-aid. Nothing is going to change unless you change it. So you can either start bringing things up, and in the process risk your job. Or find a better job before your nerves give you hell. Only you can choose. Take some time, think about it. Maybe do a tarot spread or something. But you shouldn’t have to go through that crap.

Here are a few things from the site that might give you ideas!

Good luck!

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Helo @paola and welcome. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this.

Bosses that don’t treat all employees fairly and give them the respect they deserve are the absolutely worst! (I dealt with one for many years - being told I needed to do more work around the office etc. etc. and then when was forced to leave, they had to split my job between three people - although according to them, I wasn’t doing anything!)

Does your company have an HR department you can reach out to to discuss some of these issues? i.e. NOT the boss you are having the problems with!

I would start there, if you can.

And if you have to, start looking for a new job where you will be a valued member of the staff.

@Amethyst gave you some good resources here on Spells 8 to help in that regard.

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Welcome, @paola and many blessings to you in your tough situation!

It does seem like your boss has a different attitude since these new hires started, but this is not unusual. She is able to make comparisons now, and before she was just glad to have you there.

I’m sorry for the loss of your mom - it’s important to have a close person to talk to. :people_hugging:

You might want to try the spells that @Amethyst has listed. In addition if there is anyone else at the company to talk with, find them! If it’s just your boss, maybe ask to sit down and discuss all these issues, to see if taking them head on will ease the situation.

Or, even start to look around for a new job, if this one isn’t working out for you.

Best of luck to you! :heart:

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Thankful Thursday Paola,

I agree with Greenbriar about abuses from bosses. (I had a great boss, great job, but when I left, he had to hire 3 to replace me)

My go-to when I’m having troubles is a knot spell. I have had GREAT success with these. Able to see results, anywhere from 24 to 72 hours.

Lady Gene :magic_wand:

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Greetings and welcome.

It sounds like the honeymoon is over at work. Sorry this is happening, but welcome to the club of ordinary humanity. You sound very young in that you didn’t know this could happen, whereas seasoned veterans take it in stride and have a back up or escape plan.

Did you take the job because of the perks, or were they a happy getting to know you surprise when you first started? If you signed up for certain hours from the start, and that is no longer being respected, they broke the contract with you. You owe them nothing. Get out and don’t look back. If it was a surprise, they could be talking about you behind your back, calling you spoiled.

Basically, your boss is telling you that you have become part of the furniture- comfortable and trustworthy. It is an underhanded compliment which reveals much more about the boss. If you accept the designation, they will take advantage of you, giving new hires higher salaries than you, putting the unwanted jobs on you, trying to convince you to do better, or even threatening you just because they think you have nowhere else to go.

This is coming to pass at a difficult time. Things piled up inconveniently for you with the loss at home. However they aren’t out of the ordinary in life. It’s not fair, but it happens. Sometimes fighting for respect only gets you into trouble or puts a negative spin on your character, so it’s better to find somewhere else with a boss which can treat workers equally. Yet finding such a boss can be tricky. Best of luck with this.

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