I’m hoping you lovely witches might be able to help me. In the last meeting, we talked about mirror box spells and freezer spells and I think my current situation could benefit from one of these, but I don’t know which or how to do either.
My spouse is a narcissist and very negative and it’s taking an emotional and physical toll on me and my daughter. I did an uncrossing spell that really seemed to clear the oppressive negativity from our home for a few days, but he brought back in with him. It was suggested by a local with that a freezer spell might help encapsulate his negativity while I clear out the energy in the house and I’m wondering if a mirror box spell might be a good idea to get him to realize how his energy affects us. I’d love to hear your thoughts and how both spells are done.
Freezer spells are fairly easy and can be added to in any way you’d like. For a basic spell, write down on a small piece of paper what you want to stop, put it in an ice cube tray, fill with water, and freeze. You can add protective herbs, fruit juices, whatever you like, but keep it in the freezer until your home is cleansed and your protections are up. Then, some say you can bury the ice cube in the garden so the earth helps transmute the energy into something more easily useable.
I’m sorry you and your daughter are having to deal with this. Narcissistic people are very hard to handle. I have left a few relationships because of it.
You could also try a binding spell. It would be something to get him to stop his ways. I have used one on my mother and now when I go to her house, she is no longer that way towards me.
Sorry, it sounds like a tough situation for you and your daughter
If the uncrossing spell worked but only temporarily, I agree that you could consider some longer-lasting spells. Spells with physical components - like jar spells, pouches, etc. - that stay with you tend to work well for ongoing situations. I think you’re on the right path with the freezer spell!
I agree with Georgia - freezer spells are easy to do and very adaptable. If you don’t yet have one in mind, here are a few you might consider (feel free to change them up to better suit your situation) :
I’m afraid I’m not familiar with a mirror box spell - is it similar to mirror reversal spells, like back-to-senders? If so, then that could be a way to send his negative energy back to himself (while keeping you and your daughter free of it).
There are also Cord Cuttings, but they tend to be more final - cutting the cord works best for completely severing a relationship or situation. That being said, you could attempt to cut just the negativity out using an Energy Cutting ritual.
Still, I think it’s worth trying the freezer spell/mirror work or other binding/unbinding spells first before moving to cord cuttings.
Whatever you choose to do, I hope you’re able to find some spells that work well for you. Good luck and blessed be, Shannon
I’m sorry to hear you’re still going through its - I can’t imagine how difficult it must be.
You’ve gotten some great magical advice so far so I’d like to point out the mundane part of this – if your spouse is a true narcissist, meaning they have narcissistic personality disorder, the chances of anything like a mirror box working on them is slim. This is because a mirror box relies on a person’s capacity for empathy and connection with others.
Those who have Narcissistic personality disorder struggle with those things if they’re even capable of them at all. Putting your spouse in a mirror box, so to speak, so they can see how their behavior affects you isn’t going to help you at all if they are a genuine narcissist – people with narcissistic personality disorder aren’t going to care how their behavior affects other people as long as they get what they want.
I want to be clear: this is not to knock people with NPD – it’s a real diagnosis and they deserve compassion and support just like anyone else. However, that doesn’t mean we have to be okay with their behavior, especially when it’s directed at us.
All that to say you may need to take more drastic measures, such as leaving the relationship if you can, if nothing changes. It’s hard on you as a spouse but it must also be devastating and traumatic for your child. Reach out to local support systems if you need to, whether that be family, friends, or even assistance from shelters or social benefits.
I hope you find the peace you need
As a side note, since so many people seem to want to learn more about mirror boxes, I’ll add that post to my to-do list
Oh my goodness , I’m having the same issue w my husband. He is a wonderful person, but always thinks the worst in any given situation. He doesn’t even realize it ! So there are days I have to work at being positive, I have to point it out to him, and then he’s better for awhile, until it happens again
I’m hoping I see a spell I might try. I don’t want to do a cord, cutting spell because I enjoy him when he’s not being negative. and I don’t want to eliminate him from my life. But I hate having to point things out. Ok, so I’m crossing my fingers , perhaps I’ll see something helpful
Boundaries! One of my family members is a narcissist. The only way is I set a boundary. I’m polite, courteous but no is no and it’s non negotiable regardless of the tantrums, emotional blackmail and anything else. If it gets dangerous you may need to seek professional help or refuge. You’re in my prayers lovely
One of our lovely moderators @MeganB recently put together a post about Mirror Boxes and other mirror magick. In case you haven’t already seen it - Mirror Boxes 🪞 Reflective Magic!
Thank you for this reminder. I have recently come across one. So far, I am silently watching what she values and seeking her patterns and boundaries. She has attempted to cross mine a couple of times, but I don’t allow much.
An offering for those who find themselves in a similar situation as mine: even if they provide a survival mechanism, like rides to a grocery store, your mental, emotional, and spiritual health is much more important than anything they have to offer! You have rights, but it is up to you to defend those rights. Do not waffle when setting up your boundaries because once you let your guard down,
I’m in a similar predicament as well with my husband…He tends to see the worst in situations and is quite negative. I find it really draining. I see the silver lining in many things, and then find myself flustered when my husband brings on the negativity. I try to counter it by rationalizing, but I’m realizing that I ought to try some magic!
They sound interesting - I’d love to learn more about them 
