Coping Skill #2

          **MINDFULNESS**

So what exactly does it mean to be mindful? According to Jon Kabat-Zinn, the founder of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, “Mindfulness is awareness that arises through paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgmentally.”

  1. Take a pause during the day and notice the thoughts you are having.

Often we get so caught up in thinking about the past or future that we don’t take the time out to notice the thoughts that we are having in the present.

  1. Practice a simple breathing exercise.

Breathing exercises are simple, yet powerful and always accessible during times of stress and anxiety.

  1. Come Back Into Your Body

There is a myriad of research to suggest that yoga is helpful in regards to coping with stress and anxiety. For instance, studies suggest that yoga helps to regulate the stress response by decreasing physiological arousal (i.e. lowering blood pressure).

Try some yoga. Child’s pose, legs up the wall and a simple forward fold can be a great way to release tension and come back into your physical body. Notice how these small movements can shift the energy in your body. (child’s pose in image)
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  1. Meditate (this is a long explanation, sorry)

Get settled. Breathe deeply. Defocus your eyes, gazing softly into the middle distance. Take five deep, audible breaths, breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth. On the last exhalation, allow your eyes to close.Take a few moments to settle into your body. Check in. Gently observe your posture, and notice the sensations where your body touches the chair and your feet meet the ground. Feel the weight of your arms and hands resting on your legs. Acknowledge your senses: notice anything you can smell, hear or taste and sensations of heat, cold or wind. Scan your body. Slowly turn your mind inwards. Scan your body from head to toe, observing any tension or discomfort. Don’t try to change what you find, simply take note of it. Scan again, although this time notice which parts of the body feel relaxed. Take about 20 seconds for each scan. Now turn your awareness to your thoughts. Notice any thoughts that arise without attempting to alter them. Gently note your underlying mood, just becoming aware of what’s there without judgment. If there’s nothing obvious, that’s fine, too. Consider the ‘why’. Pause for around 30 seconds and consider why you’re sitting today. Recognise any expectation or desire you’ve brought along, and let it go. Spread the love: take a moment to consider the wider effects of being mindful today. Feeling calmer helps you feel better – which in turn has a positive knock-on effect for people you encounter during the day, from colleagues to partners to your bus driver. Become aware of this ripple effect. Nothing to achieve: before you continue in the session, remind yourself that there’s no “thing” for you to do here – your only job is to sit for the full session, but beyond that there is nothing for you to do in the normal sense of the word. All you have to do is step back and let it all unfold in its own time and own way. Observe the breath. Bring your attention to your breathing. Don’t make any effort to change it, just observe the rising and falling sensation that it creates in your body. Notice where these sensations occur – be it your belly, your chest, your shoulders, or anywhere else. For a few moments, focus on the quality of each breath, noting whether it’s deep or shallow, long or short, fast or slow. Begin silently counting the breaths: 1 as you inhale, 2 as you exhale, 3 on the next inhalation, and so on, up to 10. Then start again at 1. While doing this, it’s completely normal for thoughts to bubble up. You don’t need to “do” anything – just guide your attention back to the breath when you realise the mind has wandered off. If you can remember the number you’d counted up to, start again from there, or simply start from 1 again. Continue until the timer sounds. Allow your mind to be free. Spend 20-30 seconds just sitting. You might find yourself inundated with thoughts and plans, or feel calm and focused. Whatever happens is completely fine. Enjoy the rare chance to let your mind simply be. Prepare to finish. Become aware once more of the physical feelings: of the chair beneath you, where your feet make contact with the floor, your arms and your hands resting in your lap. Notice anything you can hear, smell, taste or feel. When you’re ready, slowly open your eyes. Take it with you. Before standing up, form a clear idea about what you’re going to do next, like brushing your teeth, making a cup of tea or getting your keys to leave the house. It’s so easy to just jump up off the seat and lose the calm and spacious quality you’ve just created. Try to carry this awareness with you to the next activity. Touch base: throughout the day, find small moments to remind yourself what it felt like to have that clarity and focused attention. Maybe when you first sit down at your desk at work, when you drink your morning coffee, or when you’re on the bus. You don’t need to do the whole exercise – just take a couple of deep breaths, notice how you feel, and observe any areas of tension.

Tying it Together

Using one or more of these simple exercises throughout your day can help you to decrease anxiety, feel calmer, and more grounded.

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While I was reading this it brought me back to my Headspace basics that I haven’t done in a couple of days honestly. I don’t know what happened. But I notice the change that I haven’t been as mindful as I was when I was doing them once or twice a day. I like the basics and the guided meditations. I don’t know why I can’t do them on my own without the guide. I like to do the ones on the site too for different rituals and attunements.

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It honestly took me a while to learn to meditate without any guidance. Keep at it, I know you’ll get it when the time is right!

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thank you, I’m definitely going to start back up tomorrow with some guided ones. I’ll look on YouTube for some with intentions I want to work with magically.

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Beautifully written, @christina4! :two_hearts: Many people struggle with getting into meditation (I certainly did at first- and still do, sometimes! :laughing:) and I think this is a lovely guide to getting started! Thank you so much for sharing :woman_in_lotus_position::heart:

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Lovely info thank you @christina4 :green_heart: I really enjoy your posts :sparkling_heart:

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@mrs I love @christina4 posts as well. They are so helpful and a lot of thought put into them. You just tell by the words she uses.

Everyone here is very thoughtful and very helpful. I find myself here more than other social media outlets.

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Thank you so much for your kind words! @krissie117 @mrs and @TheTravelWitch :pray::heartpulse: I’ve found my family here and I’m proud to call you each my sisters! :slight_smile:

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I always wanted a sister :heart::joy:

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Me too! I just have a younger brother, but I do have a daughter. Sisters though, that’s a special bond.

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I have 2 sisters, one older one younger. They don’t bother with me. So I’ve found new ones!! :heartpulse: And I’m proud to be their sister!

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