Hel(a)'s Rules to Live By
#1. Life. Live as if I could take you tomorrow. What would your priorities be if you weren’t going to live out the year? Live that way at least part of every year.
#2: Happiness. For a human being to be happy every day is not the proper state of affairs. Despair and pain are also sacred states, or you don’t properly appreciate happiness. Whining and malcontentment, however, are never sacred.
#3: Waste. As in, Don’t. Use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without. To throw something away because it is ugly, or imperfect is waste. You, too, will be ugly someday, and perhaps someone who cannot afford the best would be grateful for the imperfect. Give away and recycle everything you can. Throw away only what would be rejected even by the desperate.
#4: Power. To have is riches; to be able to do without is Power.
#5: Desires. Anything that you both strongly desire and yet ambivalently resent, you are better off giving up entirely. Make yourself contentedly at home with the fact that you will never have it. Once you have done that, you will be able to have a clean relationship with it, and you might have a small chance of it coming as a gift unlooked-for.
#6: Needs. Humbly accept your needs and do what you must in order to fulfill them. Be willing to part with your desires, if necessary. Hold no illusions about which are which.
#7: Illusions. They are never kind. They are never a good thing. The sooner that they are ripped, bleeding from your soul, the better. You never need them to get by. You only think you do.
#8: Possessions. In the end, you own nothing. No exceptions. And this is not necessarily a bad thing. See Rule #4.
#9: Healing. It hurts. That’s how you know it’s working. Pain means that you’re still alive.
#10: Compassion. It is not the same thing as empathy. It has nothing to do with your emotions. In fact, when you are doing it properly, you will be putting them entirely aside.
#11: Judging. You will be judged not by how you behave towards those you love and respect, but by how you behave towards those you hate and hold in contempt.
#12: Eternity: All is impermanence. Nothing lasts forever. No exceptions. Fortunately, this applies to bad things as well.
#13: Rebirth: Nothing lasts forever, but things and people tend to recur if you wait long enough. The trick is recognizing them on the next pass.