This is a wonderful discussion- thanks for opening it up, and for sharing your personal insights about magick, @jada1! 
My personal practice and beliefs have been influenced a lot by my time living at Buddhist temples 
. In my personal magickal and spiritual beliefs, I choose to never use Dark/Black Magick. This is because I strongly believe that what you give to the world, you will get back- whether that’s in this life or the next. I think that wishing harm onto others is just as harmful to the caster as to the person the spell is directed at- not always through a karmic hand, but rather that the caster willing chose violence, hatred, and/or fear over other options. It’s just my personal belief, but I think that harmful actions cause a cycle 
- a chain of action and re-action, curse and retirubtion, that is then very hard for those captured inside to break out of. 
Again, just personal belief- but I do not consider return to sender spells, cord-cutting, freezer spells, and most other kinds of defensive magick to be Black Magick. I see them as a kind of “grey area” of magick- if they do cause harm, it was caused by the original attacker and not the defendant. I don’t believe there is anything wrong in protecting yourself and your loved ones- in fact, I think this is a wonderful and important use of magick (albiet a use of magick that hopefully needs to be used only sparingly!)
It comes down to each individual witch to write their own code of ethics and draw their own lines. This is the beauty of magick, and I am very proud of all those who explored things and chose their witch code for themselves! 
It is always a delight to hear other’s opinions and see how everyone thinks of Black/Dark Magick in their practices.
Thanks again for opening up this discussion, Jada! 
