Well, one of my great-grandmothers was an Aries. She was an amazing woman. Imperfect, but amazing. Deserving of all the respect.
One of her daughters and that daughter’s youngest son’s girlfriend are also Aries and they’re two of the most self-centred, gaslighting people I’ve met. (I’m vague with the relation on purpose, sorry. )
So when you have these three people in the same room, all Aries, and all such different people, it’s easy to spot that being Aries isn’t the problem.
First of all, I’m no expert. So, it’s possible that part of my dislike comes from ignorance. Watch me eat my own words before I’m done explaining…
But speaking of not being an expert, there seems to be a huge difference between the simple tidbits of astrology we get in life to actually delving deeper and looking beyond the sun sign. I think the latter is a lot more valuable than the one-sentence forecast we read in magazines and the like. So, I’m definitely more “meh” towards the simplified version than I am towards the in-depth approach.
The other thing you mentioned about stereotypes might be another offputting thing. It sucks being told you’re XYZ by people who don’t really know you. “Oh, you’re a Taurus. You must be stubborn, huh?” I mean, I’m stubborn if someone thinks sticking to my values is stubborn. But that’s not unique to Taurus and is rarely true if they consider everything about me. And also, rude?
Reminds me of this 16 Personalities site using the Myer-Briggs types. It says this about my type:
Ironically, Logicians shouldn’t always be held at their word. They rarely mean to be dishonest, but with their active minds, they sometimes overflow with ideas and theories that they haven’t thought through all the way. They may change their mind on anything from their weekend plans to a fundamental moral principle, without ever realizing that they’d appeared to have made up their mind in the first place. - Introduction | Logician (INTP Personality) | 16Personalities
Did they seriously just say that we are dishonest because we change our views when new information gives us reason to? Do they really want me to stick to ideas after I know they’re wrong?
Regarding the in-depth approach to astrology, however, it’s been a lot of effort learning to understand everything, only to discover that it is generally correct, but there’s also a lot of information specific to certain periods of my life that are over or have only recently begun. I’ll read something in my chart that has only become true in the past few years, or was something I dealt with when I was 25, or was something that was only the case because I was in XYZ situation from 16-21. So a lot of it feels like cherry-picking from a whole bunch of data to find value.
For example, this is true:
Regarding studying or learning, you are better off reading the material than listening to a teacher. These traits come from a strong need to actively participate in communications. It is tough for you to listen passively and absorb information.
But it’s also true for a lot of people with ADHD. Meanwhile, this didn’t become true until a few years ago:
You are endlessly curious about people, group interactions, community affairs, trends, and teams.
And everyone I know will say I’ve been the exact opposite of this my whole life:
It’s possible you remain rather immature or irresponsible emotionally, never wanting to truly grow up and take care of yourself.
I suppose a part of my personal problem is that I’ve gotten into astrology after doing a lot of work on myself – alone, with my partner, with friends, and through therapy – to deal with all the issues that astrology could have pointed out in the first place. So the effort-to-reward ratio I’m experiencing is a bit off.
I also don’t like it when reading my natal chart makes me feel validated. I’m like, “I didn’t come here to have my ego stroked.”
Maybe that’s why I gravitate towards divination? I don’t really care about the things I cannot change, but I’m interested in paving the path forward with something better, and I think there are better tools to do that with than this?
And when it comes to other people, I guess I’d rather just start without the astrology template. Discover them as though I know nothing. I feel like I’d risk too many biases otherwise.
Does any of this make sense, or am I just coming off as a huge @$$hat?