I recently did a video about ego within witchcraft and what can happen when we let our own preconceived notions and biases get in the way of our growth. Since I posted about it on YouTube, I wanted to talk about it here, too! I will share the video at the bottom of this post, if you want to watch it.
The word ego is usually defined as a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance. In psychoanalysis, the definition is a bit different.
the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity
– Oxford Dictionary
When I speak of ego in witchcraft or any spiritual practice, I am talking about that little voice we all have in our head that tells us things are stupid, dumb, or not worth practicing. It’s those little things that we have feelings about whenever we see them, whether those feelings are warranted or not.
It’s important to note here that not every strange feeling, bias, or experience is going to be your ego getting in the way. Some practices are problematic, and your experiences with different systems and traditions are valid. This is why it is critical, in my opinion, to learn your patterns and know yourself when practicing witchcraft.
I am not innocent when it comes to letting my ego get in the way of growth in practice, or at the very least, trying something new. I will 100% own that truth, and you know what? We are all guilty of this at one point or another. AND IT’S OKAY! Sometimes we just get so set in our ways that the thought of trying something new just doesn’t vibe with us. Or we see people get caught up in trends (like the moldavite craze that has skyrocketed the price of this piece of space glass!) and turn our noses up at it.
I will give you some examples of my own ego stopping me in my tracks. Yes, I am putting myself out there with these examples to be judged, but you know what? That is perfectly fine with me because at the end of the day, I know we have all faced something similar. And if you haven’t? Then I’d like to formally congratulate you an being perfect
Anyway, here are a few things that have made me go ehhh when it comes to witchcraft and spirituality.
Crystal Healing – Oh, the shock and horror! And I know Christina is gonna come for me for this one BUT! Crystal healing just doesn’t vibe with me and I have often found myself grumbling silently that while crystals are beautiful pieces of the Earth (or space rock!), they’re usually just that. Now, for me, this bias comes from experiences that I have had in the spiritual community where instead of recommending therapy or medical treatment, people have advised others to just carry around specific crystals and not see a doctor, too. However, I also haven’t given crystal healing a fair chance because of this bias and my experiences in certain communities. It isn’t fair for me to say “oh, that doesn’t work and it’s silly” if I have never tried it myself.
Using Urine in Spellwork – Now, this one comes from more traditional workings and witchcraft. Urine has been used for hundreds of years in witch’s bottles, both by witches and by those wanting to keep witches away. Urine is a very powerful taglock, but I just can’t bring myself to do it. It has a lot to do with my own issues with bodily fluids and thinking that it’s gross, but I have never used urine in my workings and it’s because that voice in my head goes ewwwwww!
Moon Water – This is one that I have gone back and forth with for a long time and I am not sure if it’s my ego in the way or if moon water is just so overused online. I used to make moon water every Full Moon. Then you know what would happen? It would just sit there and my shelf. I would make it but then I would never use it. My feelings toward moon water are this → people tell others to make moon water just because it’s a popular and easy thing to do, but they don’t tell people what to do with the water afterward. Making moon water is not a requirement of anything and now? I don’t make it at all because I think there are better things I can be doing with my time
Well, the simple answer is this → Don’t knock it 'til you try it!
You can really hinder your growth when you let emotion and negative connotation get in the way of trying new things. If I had a negative connotation about scrying, for example, and I never try it, I am limiting myself. If I never try it, I will never know if it works for me. It would also be dishonest of me to tell others that scrying doesn’t work or that I don’t like it. How do I know if I like it if I have never tried it?!
Now, that’s not to say that everything you try is going to work great for you. If I sat down to scry and make it a goal to scry every day for 30 days and have zero results? That’s fine. At least I tried! I will still be able to walk away from that experience with the knowledge that I suck at scrying If I don’t give things a fair chance, I am doing myself and my community a disservice.
How many times have you had a negative connotation with something and had that project onto someone in your life? If you don’t understand, I will give you an example. I have feelings about the Law of Attraction. Those feelings come from my own experiences as someone with mental health struggles being told that everything bad in my life has been my fault because I just can’t think positive.
I recently had someone in my life who never explicitly said they practiced the Law of Attraction but their mannerisms and behavior very much gave me that feeling. I started to project my feelings of resentment and discontent for the Law of Attraction onto this person that was supposed to be helping me. I did this without any evidence that this person did anything wrong. They never blamed me. They never told me that positive thoughts will make everything better. But still, because some of their mannerisms matched that of people who practice the Law of Attraction, my feelings got projected onto this person unfairly.
This isn’t to say that we should ignore our feelings from past experiences. In fact, I think this is a great way to keep us safe. It can turn into a very gray area in terms of letting our past experiences influence our current thoughts and behaviors. Again, this is a time when you need to know yourself enough to tell the difference between when those experiences are necessary and when they aren’t.
Well, knock it off! I know, I know. Easier said than done! But one thing that I have found helpful in my own practice is recognizing when something is pushing buttons for no reason. I am also going to start experimenting more! If there is a practice I’ve never done, I’ll try it. One thing I’ll be doing here shortly is scripting! It’s never made sense to me and always made me scratch my head, but I’ve never tried it so it’s the perfect thing to do.
Just because practices don’t vibe with us doesn’t mean they’re lesser or inadequate. We all have our strengths and we are all different! So, let’s be honest with each other. Have you ever let your ego get in the way of your growth? What’s something you’ve never done because of feelings but now you might try?