Being a pet owner is an amazing thing, but of course with that comes the burden of eventual loss. If you are a pet lover, you know that they are the most wonderful, unconditional love you will ever experience in this life… and they will be, by far one of the most difficult goodbyes.
The pain of loss can often feel overwhelming and trigger all sorts of painful and difficult emotions. While some people may not understand the depth of love you had for your pet, you should never feel guilty or ashamed about grieving for a family member. Yes, our pets become our family. It’s important to acknowledge that the tears, the heartache, the frustration, the anger—and yes, the grief, is all too real and legit.
I pieced this together for my Father and his wife. They just recently lost their little fur baby. While this ritual will not bring Bok Choy back, I hope that they can find some comfort, healing and peace with it.
If you have lost a beloved pet feel free to use this ritual to help aid you in the grieving process. If you have lost a pet, I send you my condolences, and healing light.
Before playing the video, I could already feel the energy you had put into making this ritual for your father and his wife. I’m sure they are full of gratitude and love knowing they could come to you in what I would call a soul loss of sorts.
When I knew I would have to say goodbye to my cat, the night before that day I created a ritual that entailed making a charm I guess you could say. The end result came out to be a little fold it yourself box filled with various herbs and objects that corresponded to Kronik’s energy and the memories I have of him. I sealed it with a ribbon tied around the box and into a bow, topped off with a small candle melting onto the top of it.
That box is on a shelf I have dedicated to him, Tigger, Mocha and Kosher.
I still have suppressed grief when it comes to him due to my boyfriend at the time taking the loss of Kronik a lot harder than I ever expected honestly. Unfortunately that gave me the escape needed to shove my feelings and emotions deep within myself and shift my focus to comforting my ex.
Thank you for sharing this with us. It’s simple, beautiful and meaningful. It has sparked inspiration in not only dealing with my suppressed grief but also releasing myself from it and being able to truly cherish my memories of Kronik.
I love that the animal’s name is Bok Choy Thank you for sharing this. I haven’t lost a pet recently, but several years ago (at least…9 I think) we lost our dog Coco that my dad got when he finally got sober. She was the best dog and she led a long and happy life. She ended up with a cancer in her abdomen that couldn’t be treated and we did the humane thing and put her down so she wouldn’t suffer anymore.
I know this ritual can bring peace and start the healing process for anyone who needs it
Sending warm thoughts to your father and his wife- rest peacefully, Bok Choy
Furry friends bring so much happiness during their life, but also so much sadness when it is time for them to go This is a very wholesome ritual, @SilverBear. Something like this will really help during sad moments of parting. Thanks so much sharing
@SilverBear, this was beautiful! Thank you! I lost my beloved chihuahua Mia, at 14, in March, almost two years ago. And just as you stated, it is heart wrenching! Literally almost unbearable! I still have her ashes, and Dream of her quite often, or I should say, she comes to me in my dreams. And sometimes, her dreams are so real! I literally feel her on my bed, sleeping next to me again! ( And i know she’s there!) It’s actually what’s helped me cope with her death. I still miss her, but her spirit moves on, and i know she will always be with me. ( I know sounds korny ) I just recently put her ashes on my altar a couple of days ago. Not to mourn her, but to celebrate her. Some people block away their mourning and don’t want to think of their deceased pet anymore, because it hurts too much to think about them. However, I embrace my memory of her, and always keep her alive in my heart. She was my buddy, my soul companion, my friend. To love a pet is everlasting. I have my other little one who is 7 years old. And i love her everyday with intensity, because I know someday, she will be gone. People often ask me; Why do you put yourself through the pain of having another dog and than having to lose them ? I tell them, I will own a dog until my last days. Yes, it’s painful and unbearable! However, with so many dogs out there needing love- what’s important is that you give back that love you have for your dog, to another one that needs it. Therefore, the love of your dog will transcend to so many other dogs, to equal a human lifetime.
Thank you for sharing this and knowing how magical it is to love a pet!
@janelle, i completely under this! It is truly so difficult dealing with a kiss of a pet! When I lost my dog, I remember I’d be fine one minute and for no reason I’d be crying the next. It’s a process, each must endure at it’s given cycle. I hope you’re feeling at ease with your cat’s loss now and enjoying his memory.
Thank you for sharing this. I haven’t lost a pet recently, but several years ago (at least…9 I think) we lost our dog Coco that my dad got when he finally got sober. She was the best dog and she led a long and happy life. She ended up with a cancer in her abdomen that couldn’t be treated and we did the humane thing and put her down so she wouldn’t suffer anymore.
This is a very wholesome ritual, 