If there is one thing I know for sure it is that I absolutely suck at relaxing. This probably has a lot to do with the fact that I work from home and my work day and my non-work day tend to blend together. I do not have set hours that I work. I just work when I have time. I put everything together with my current to-do list as a witch, business owner, and homeschooling mom. This often leads to feelings of overwhelm or, when the case arises, family members commenting that I work too much or that it seems like I am always working. I mean, they are probably right but still…no one likes to hear that, right?
So when thinking about how I relax as a witch, I actually tend to pull away from magical practices. This is because I do not want to be tempted to post about my witchy relaxation on social media. I know this should not be an issue but unfortunately it is. When my online business and space revolves around my witchcraft practice, it becomes too easy to fall into the trap of posting absolutely everything I do. Instead, I take time away from my phone and being online and I just get back in touch with the natural world around me.
So, here are a few of my tips on relaxing as a witch and busy person in general.
Yes, you read that right. I know that if you go online and look up ways to fall asleep easier at night or ways to relax when you are stressed, the number one thing to do is to limit your screen time. The same can be said for us witches. I know this is not the most witchy tip but it is one of the most important.
One thing I plan on implementing (yes, I have not done it yet) is a sigil to help me limit my screen time. This can be included as an image on your phone that is created to activate after a certain amount of time. It can also be used as a background image on your phone so you have a visible reminder to limit your screen time.
We all know how grounding sitting outside can be. You can take this a step further and ground yourself using all four (or five) elements. When we get stressed out, frustrated, exhausted, or just over everything, we can see these as physical manifestations of elements being out of balance within ourselves. Whether you work with elements in this manner or not is not important, in my opinion. Even if you only choose to use the visualizations as psychological aids, I still feel they work just as well.
Earth - The Earth is a very physical element. It is stable, our foundation. When our foundations are shaken we often feel unstable. Stick your hands or feet in the ground (or just go for a walk in the grass barefoot) and feel your foundation become more stable. Lean into the energy of the Earth for your stability.
Air - For me, Air is an element of anxiety. When I feel anxious, I feel very out of breath. My chest gets heavy and tight. I often feel like a fish out of water. Besides having anxiety (diagnosed), it is a good idea to ground with Air when you are feeling worried about something in your life. Find a quiet place to sit and practice box breathing. This is a simple relaxation technique that is said to calm the nerves. Breath in for four counts, hold for four counts, breathe out for four counts, and hold for four counts. Of course, if you have difficulty with this, taking long and deep breaths can work just as well.
Fire - When someone is very angry, we often say they are “seeing red”. For me, this translates over into the elements as well. If you are angry, hurt, upset, or even enraged, lean into the element of fire. One way that I find helpful is to have a red pillar candle specifically for this purpose. Actually, this is a practice I’ve been using with my daughter who is learning how to handle her emotions. Hold the candle with both hands and visualize the situation that is making you upset. Push all that frustrated energy into the candle before lighting it. As you light it, sit and meditate with the candle as it helps to calm your upset. Please use candle safety. Also, please note that this is not a replacement for honest conversations with those that have upset you nor a replacement for righteous anger and activism.
Water - As air is a representative of my anxiety, water is the element of my depression. Magically speaking, water holds emotions and represents all things we feel. When I am feeling very depressed and emotionally empty, my go-to method is going for a swim if I am able. If swimming is not an option, then I take a nice bath or shower. Water has always been my element. I have always been a swimmer and have felt at home in the pool or the ocean. In fact, swimming in the ocean is a spiritual experience for me and is one that is very cleansing. Lean into the energy of water if you are feeling sad, depressed, or emotionally empty. Please note that you should take caution if you are feeling suicidal or having thoughts of self-harm. Always tell a trusted person when you are having suicidal thoughts and get the appropriate care you need.
Most witches feel a connection to the world around them. Living in the modern world does not always offer us the ability to connect with nature on a regular basis. At the very least, most of us spend a majority of our day inside either working, taking care of children, or keeping a home. No matter how long it is, take some time to go outside and recharge. Sit under a large tree. Do some work in a garden. Stand on a patch of grass at your apartment complex. Whatever you can do to connect to the natural world around you, the world in which we belong, can do wonders for your spirit. Never forget that we are not outside of nature. We are part of it. I just feel that sometimes we may lose touch with that side of ourselves.
I have been feeling very overwhelmed with everything lately. I have been very busy and very emotionally…not empty, but emotionally turbulent, I suppose? This past weekend was the perfect opportunity for me to recharge. On Friday I had the opportunity to go to a beach in my area with my daughter and some other homeschool families. A swim in the ocean was something I desperately needed. We swam for several hours, enjoyed the sunshine, and found some beautiful shells and sand dollars.
My family decided to go fishing the next day, too. This was not at the beach but I spent the entire day out in nature nonetheless. This was a much needed recharge for me, I think. I know I am still feeling heavy in the chest and heart but that is to be expected for me.
In any case, this past weekend was something I needed and I hope to have more days like this in the future. Also, all the pictures in this post are mine from over the weekend. I hope you liked them!
So, witch, what do you do to relax? Because I am tired of being tired all the time.
Continuing the discussion from Weekly Witchy CHALLENGE - Let a Witch Unwind!