Positivity is the practice of being or tendency to be positive or optimistic in attitude.
Toxic is poisonous or very bad, unpleasant and harmful.
Two words that are complete opposite of each other…I am probably the unpopular opinion on this but I hate that term “toxic positivity”
While I agree we can’t all be positive ALL the time…I think when most people say, “Never give up!” They mean, just that, “don’t give up! You got this!” I truly believe when people say this it’s meant in a non-harmful way. A way of being uplifting. Not a way of being dismissive.
Never once did I think I was being toxic by giving advice like this to friends or family. Yes, it’s ok to not be OK, but yeah, don’t give up either!
Ha, not sure if I am explaining myself right, since it’s hard to ‘read’ tone.
Sometimes “toxic positivity” phrases may over simplify emotions, but never once did I think I was being cruel, mean or uncaring or ignoring the fact that someone was going through some crap by just saying “hang in there, friend. This too shall pass.”
Although I TRY to live life with the whole good vibes thing, and I always try to find the silver lining, I am in no way blind to the crappiness that can be. I choose to look at that crappiness, deal with it, get over it and move on. Sometimes people get stuck in the crappiness and need to hear the blunt version of “Get over it and stop being so negative!”
I have to mention, I am typically not into all the PC terms either, but I am not an uncaring individual. I just think people are stuck in a cycle of always looking for “bad mojo” were there isn’t any.
Yes, people’s feelings are valid, it doesn’t mean they need to set up camp and live there.