I had an interesting experience this New Yearâs Eve that helped find some worthy goals to set for this beginning year, and not just for myself but for my father too.
Thereâs a very old tradition of molybdomancy thatâs been associated with divining how the following year is going to look. The method as itâs usually practiced here is melting a horseshoe shaped piece of tin on a stove and casting the molten tin into a bucket of cold water. The resulting object is first examined as it is, and then itâs time to look at it in front of candlelight and interpret the shadows it casts.
Thatâs not what we did this year though, partially because the kind of (leaded) tin weâve used is no longer available, it not being very healthy to breathe lead vapors and all that. Probably a good call 
Instead I did my very first tarot reading with another person! I used my Crystal Visions deck which I feel very attuned to. At midnight in candlelight I shuffled the cards and spread them out on the table face down. When I was satisfied with the spread I told my method: focus on the question you want to ask the cards and slowly move your relaxed left hand over the cards, palm down, feeling the energy, and when you feel your ring finger being drawn towards a card, pick it up and lay it down in front of you face up. We did a very general one card drawing for each, and it also felt right for both to draw another one with a more specific question.
Iâm going to respect his privacy, but I can tell my reading. First I got a knight of swords, which to me told where Iâm struggling in my life. I tend to get frustrated very easily, and my defenses are constantly up, like a knight whoâs always keeping their sword out ready for enemies that are nowhere to be seen. Maybe because of this I can seem forceful and overbearing at times.
That very much conflicts with the kind of person I want to be, so I asked the cards how can I do better. Ace of Swords, reversed. How I interpreted it was: Itâs not something I can just do overnight. But what I can do is to learn to let go, lay down my sword, observe without judgement. To allow things to run their natural course and be more mindful when to act and how, instead of trying to maintain constant control.
Iâm going to do just that. Also I noticed that Iâm still getting Swords a lot. I remember @MeganB telling me that itâs a sign Iâm spending a lot of time in my head and I can definitely see that. Bringing more balance there is another good goal for this year.
A fun thing that happened to my father I can tell though: he asked if he can draw another card, âjust for funâ, âto see if they support the ones I gotâ etc. and I told him that it doesnât really work that way. He kept asking and I said sure, go ahead, letâs see what happens. He drew a card, burst out in laughter and showed it to me. It was the cover card that very much looks like the kind of card that comes with board games, containing the rules to the game! 